My husband and I have been married for about 3 1/2 years. We decided over a year ago that we were ready to have a baby. So I went off my birth control, waited a few months and then starting trying. I had always heard that the average time it takes to get pregnant is between 3-6 months and could take up to even a year. My doctor at the time actually even told me not to contact her until I'd been trying for a full year. I had no problem with this, though, because I didn't really think that would be me anyway.
Before we even started trying, but after I stopped my birth control, I had only had two periods in five months. I was a little worried about this because I figured that couldn't be normal and probably not too good for baby-making. I went to the doctor and she ran some tests on me but everything was "normal" (whatever that means). They gave me some medicine, though, to try and jump start my body and force me to have a period...didn't work. Four more months passed and no periods, then I finally had my third period in 9 months. I did then have a period just a month after that so I thought I was in the clear, but that's the last one I had for the year. The doctors still said my tests were "normal", but I had a hard time believing that a 28 year-old woman having four periods in 12 month was normal. So to date, I've had four periods in17 months, and I'm not pregnant.
To be completely honest the first year of trying with no success wasn't too bad; I had prepared myself that it could take awhile. I also had faith that God was in total control. It offers me comfort to know that everything happens for a reason and for the glory of God. It may not be what I want or what I plan, but it is for the ultimate good. I should look at it as an honor to be a part of God's plan for that ultimate good even if it's not what I was expecting.
I definately had my moments of frustration, though, and incredible knots in my stomach while I was waiting for the pregnancy tests to process. I really didn't take that many tests; it's hard to know when you're ovulating, even if you ovulate and when to take a pregnancy test when you don't have a period for 4 straight months. I really just took the tests right before I had to buy more medicine...just in case you know. In the very beginning I always took the tests when my husband was home because I wanted us to find out together. After a while though, I would take them when he wasn't home because I really didn't think they'd be positive. Sometimes I even forgot to look at them after they were finished because I just knew they were going to be negative. I also didn't get disappointed anymore (which is huge if you know me because I get very excited over little things which unfortunately allows me to become easily disappointed); I'd see the test results and just take a deep breath and sigh. I guess you could view that as a lack in my faith. I think it probably was, but God definately knows how to bring you out of that and can suddenly show you amazing things to restore and renew that faith.
